My job is flexible, and I can work from anywhere in the world. So what do we know about men who broke up with you in the past and are coming back for more? So when these men contact me, I do take it seriously. Well, without knowing either you or them as individuals, all I can do is prognosticate, based on what I know about people. A poor communicator is usually going to be a poor communicator.
I am a 43-year-old woman who has never been married (although I would like to be). In the great majority of these relationships, it was the man who decided to break things off with me. Decline contact with your exes, start with a clean slate, and trust that the right guy – the one who will be with you ‘til the day you die – is not going to dump you the way these other 3 men did. Try to find a way to ignore these types of overtures.
Over the past 25 years, I have had a number of relationships while living in the U. I am writing to seek your take on the phenomenon of being contacted by ex-boyfriends and girlfriends. And now that his life is not where he wants it to be… now that he’s going through his mid-life crisis and can’t seem to pull off hitting on 29-year-olds in bars… If nothing else, they showed that they had poor judgement when they broke up with a terrific woman like you, right?
The most recent contact has been from a man whom I knew 14 years ago and who lives in another country. These messages throw me into an emotional turmoil because, as I said, I would like to be in a serious relationship. I may get pancreatic cancer and be gone before I’m 50.
I don’t understand what the point is of contacting someone from so long ago in your past, especially when you no longer even live in the same city or country. When I hear from these men, I begin to remember our relationship and wonder if it would be possible to get together again. I think all of these things are exceedingly unlikely, but they’re possible.
Listen, I know why it might be tempting to rekindle an old flame with the devil that you know, but I’d strongly lean towards the one you don’t know.